Created by Mattie Zarena Whitfield, founder of She Manifest and The BeYOUtiful Collective, this podcast is part of a divine mission: to transmute trauma into truth, beauty into boldness, and silence into sovereign voice.
Expect deep stories, sacred affirmations, and soft invitations to heal.
Because beauty shouldn’t come with betrayal.
And silence is no longer our birthright.

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HOST: Mattie Zarena Whitfield Where beauty meets betrayal, sisterhood, and sacred healing. What happens when your beauty becomes a burden? When admiration turns into isolation—and the mirror reflects more pain than power? Too Pretty to Be Safe is an interview-style podcast where women of color share the untold stories of being judged, bullied, or betrayed simply for being beautiful. From whispered shade in the school hallways to corporate sabotage, from sisterhood wounds to family rejection—these conversations crack open what it really means to be seen... and still feel unsafe. But this isn’t just about pain. It’s about power. Each episode is a raw testimony, a healing mirror, and a permission slip to rise beyond survival.
Episodes
Wednesday Jul 30, 2025
Authenticity Over Illusion: Building Real Victory Inspired by JoAnne Boykin-Thurston
Wednesday Jul 30, 2025
Wednesday Jul 30, 2025
In this episode, we explore the transformative power of authenticity with JoAnne Boykin-Thurston. Discover how letting go of illusions and embracing your true self can turn life’s storms into victories. Through real stories of resilience and purpose, learn why building on truth, guided by faith, and investing in community leads to lasting impact and legacy. Join us for a conversation that challenges you to release what no longer serves you and step boldly into your authentic power.
Wednesday Jul 30, 2025
Wednesday Jul 30, 2025
Discover how radical honesty is transforming the landscape for Black women entrepreneurs in America. In this episode, we explore the dual realities behind the explosive growth of Black women-owned businesses, the challenges they face in traditional workplaces, and the power of speaking truth to create lasting change. Hear how vulnerability, advocacy, and community are redefining leadership and opening doors for future generations.
Wednesday Jul 30, 2025
The Radical Power of Boundaries: Self-Love as Revolution Inspired by Mahogany Foster
Wednesday Jul 30, 2025
Wednesday Jul 30, 2025
Explore the transformative power of self-love and boundaries in this episode inspired by Mahogany Foster. Discover why prioritizing your wellbeing is not selfish but essential, how setting clear boundaries can amplify your impact, and why staying true to your mission is the most revolutionary act of all. Learn practical ways to protect your energy, honor your purpose, and lead with authenticity in a world that often demands self-sacrifice.
Wednesday Jul 30, 2025
Wednesday Jul 30, 2025
Discover how radical honesty is transforming the landscape for Black women entrepreneurs in America. This episode explores the explosive growth of Black women-owned businesses, the dual realities of triumph and trauma, and the power of speaking truth to create real change. Learn why honesty is more than a personal act—it's a revolutionary force for collective progress, and how support systems, advocacy, and allyship are reshaping what leadership looks like. Join us for an inspiring conversation on turning truth into a superpower and building spaces where every voice matters.
Wednesday Jul 30, 2025
The Radical Power of Boundaries: Self-Love as Revolution Inspired by Mahogany Foster
Wednesday Jul 30, 2025
Wednesday Jul 30, 2025
Discover how setting boundaries and prioritizing self-love can transform your life and amplify your impact. This episode explores the radical act of putting yourself first, the power of saying no, and why honoring your mission is essential for personal and collective growth. Learn practical ways to protect your energy, set standards, and fulfill your purpose without sacrificing your wellbeing.
Wednesday Jul 30, 2025
The Polished Mask: Bridging Appearance and Authenticity — Inspired by Alexis Lamour
Wednesday Jul 30, 2025
Wednesday Jul 30, 2025
Explore the hidden realities behind polished exteriors as we dive into the pressures Black professionals face to appear successful while carrying invisible burdens. Inspired by insights from Alexis Lamour, this episode unpacks the cost of perfection, the power of vulnerability, and why radical self-love is essential for true resilience. Discover how authentic connection and community support can help bridge the gap between appearance and authenticity, offering a path toward healing and genuine self-acceptance.
Wednesday Jul 30, 2025
Wednesday Jul 30, 2025
Explore the hidden costs of success and the emotional toll of maintaining a flawless image, especially for Black professionals navigating spaces that demand perfection. Inspired by insights from Alexis Lamour, this episode uncovers the power of vulnerability, the importance of authentic connection, and why radical self-love is essential for true resilience. Discover how breaking the silence and embracing your full humanity can lead to real healing and community.
Wednesday Jul 30, 2025
The Beauty Paradox: When Looking Good Feels Bad – Inspired by Robin Reath
Wednesday Jul 30, 2025
Wednesday Jul 30, 2025
Explore the hidden side of beauty bias in the workplace and beyond. This episode dives into how being perceived as "too attractive" can lead to exclusion, judgment, and challenges to authenticity. Discover how embracing individuality and challenging appearance-based assumptions can transform professional and social environments, empowering everyone to bring their whole selves to the table.

Want to be Featured?
If your beauty has ever felt like a bull’s-eye instead of a blessing—and you’re willing to unpack the shade, sabotage, and sacred healing that followed—then your voice belongs on Too Pretty to Be Safe. We’re gathering women of color ready to crack open the real stories behind admiration turned isolation, so listeners can transform pain into power together.
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